Do you think your parents made any major mistakes in how they raised you? If so, how did it affect you?
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juliahenderson
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Everyone does the best they can, and frankly I'm not convinced human beings live long enough to grow up. We're all children, we're all confused on some level and even on a global scale we're still howling and kicking and thumping each other.
Every parent makes mistakes, but you couldn't find two more decent people than those who raised me. That said there wasn't a lot of understanding between us for a long while, and I put that down to my parents being a product of their generation. We never hugged, I think I was 20 or so before they told me they loved me, I don't think they've ever said they're proud of me, and my father's never been to anything I've been involved in. I'm not sure he's even read anything I've written. It sucked at the time, but it's one of those things you just come to understand, and the cavity that sort of thing leaves in a kid quickly gets filled once he grows up and takes charge of his own life. What was important-yet-absent then replaced by what's more important now but present. So I see my folks for who they are, with all their minor flaws and enormous virtues, and consider myself incredibly lucky. They did a good job.